You have to know how to manage your brain if you want to get off the treadmill of chasing happiness and never reaching full satisfaction. Drinking is one way we keep ourselves in this cycle; we turn to drinks to feel better in the moment, but become more dependent on drinking as a consequence.
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In celebration of our 100th episode of the Take a Break podcast, I’m combing through the archives of the past 99 episodes and pulling out some of the most important concepts and lessons from each episode. This is an excellent review for you to look at what your next layer of work is and if you’re a new listener, you’re getting the best overview you could possibly get to help you figure out which episodes you need/want to dig deeper into first.
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Struggling with something like overdrinking - or overeating, excessive spending, any other habit that's out of control - often goes hand-in-hand with feeling powerless. The fact is, you are anything but powerless in this process. That's the beauty of the think-feel-act cycle: it allows you to identify the thoughts and feelings that are creating undesirable actions, and you can then choose to start changing these thoughts and feelings.
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Listen in as I describe the crucial differences between wanting something to change and committing to making it change. Tons of my clients have been able to change not only their relationship with alcohol, but how they approach all of their goals and dreams. Committing to change may not feel easy in the short run, but it's much easier (and rewarding) in the long run than it is to be trapped in the passive limbo of wanting change.
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I used to be really committed to a lot of my beliefs about drinking, like "not drinking is boring" and "everybody drinks," and they held me back. On this episode, I share a technique called "The Turnaround" that helped me challenge these beliefs and finally change my thoughts, and eventually, my desire.
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Join me to find out how to identify the stories that you have around alcohol – what it does for you, how it hurts you, what it does for other people – in order to get the full idea of the cause and effect of these thoughts.
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On this episode, I'm talking about how to change your mindset around confronting obstacles. Instead of being surprised by the challenges that pop up, you can anticipate and solve them ahead of time. I break this process down into three steps that will help you make a game plan for dealing with any kind of obstacle.
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I can't tell you exactly how long it will take you to shift your desire; that's different for everyone. But I do know that if you're willing to be uncomfortable over and over and over again, you can succeed. Listen below as I talk about my experience with these questions, how they relate to the think-feel-act cycle, and why you are the reason for your success - not the tools, program, or coach you might use.
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If you’re going to change, you have to consider your beliefs about your capacity for change. If you tell yourself that you never finish anything or describe yourself as a quitter, you probably feel defeated and don’t end up changing your actions. That’s how the think-feel-act cycle works, right? Listen to this week’s episode to hear why challenging this thought and countering your brain’s confirmation bias are incredibly important for changing your habits.
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When you've taken a break from drinking in the past (or maybe right now) have you felt frustrated by the fact that you're still unhappy... even without the "cause" of your undesired behavior out of the picture? Join me today as I address why uncovering the real you can be so uncomfortable and confrontational and how shifting your thoughts away from just your actions can have a tremendous impact on your journey of taking a break.
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Have you ever experienced anxiety that feels so intense you're certain something terrible is going to happen? Do you experience that anxiety around alcohol and taking a break from drinking? Join me today as I break down where anxiety comes from and what you're probably doing in response to it that is keeping you from seeing it clearly. I'm also sharing a step-by-step process you can use to work through anxiety when it shows up!
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Today, I want to talk about how we cope with negative emotions, the actions that we take in response to them. And specifically, what it means to numb how you feel. Join me on this episode of Take a Break for a look into why we numb, how to tell when you're using a numbing action to avoid facing your negative thoughts and emotions, and why awareness is key.
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Do you find yourself searching for the motivation to change your habit of drinking… or anything else in your life? I have some good news for you today that can help end your search. Join me this week as I share how you can build the skill of motivation by taking action every day.
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Most of you probably have thoughts along the lines of, “That’s just who I am,” “I’m just someone who has no impulse control,” or “That’s just my personality. I can’t change it.” But what if it’s not “just who you are” but actually something you can change? Today, I want to talk to you about a new and different way of considering who you are: Personality vs Mindset.
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Whether your numbing action is overdrinking, overeating, overworking or any other overindulgence, you may have had the thought, "Why can't I ___ like everyone else?" Today I'm breaking down the belief that many of you are caught up in of wanting to be like everyone else. I share how the questions you're asking yourself are leading you to the shameful conclusion that there's something wrong with you and how you can choose other thoughts.
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People hate admitting that they judge others negatively, however, we all do it. On this episode, we’re talking about the Mirror Effect – why you judge other people harshly – and what that means about your thoughts about yourself. We also take a look at how you can use the understanding of this concept as a tool to help you change your drinking habit or improve any area of your life.
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Have you ever felt like you either do everything right and do everything you said you were going to do or you've thrown it all out the window and allow yourself to cut loose and eat, drink, or do whatever your heart desires? Tune in as we take a look at the idea of perfectionism in relation to our drinking habits and how our thinking about earning our worthiness impacts our desire to drink.
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On this episode, we explore why people are drink pushers and why we avoid them and blame them for our own choices around drinking. We also look at what we need to understand about the think-feel-act cycle and how it’s driving the action of pushing other people to drink. Join me to discover how to handle the situations where someone is trying to persuade you to drink to help you feel empowered rather than pressured.
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Do you feel like, no matter how much progress you make toward changing your drinking habits, you always focus only on the times when you stray from the path to your goals and constantly beat yourself up over it? Today, we take a look at how using certain kinds of language when we don’t do as we planned impacts meaningful growth and how a subtle shift can make all the difference when you’re trying to change your drinking.
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You must practice in order to create change, right? On this episode, we take a look at the real reasons why you might be having an issue with socializing without alcohol and how regular practice can make this process (as well as any other sticking point in your journey) easier and more enjoyable.
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On this episode, we’re talking about impulse control – the essential meta-skill for getting anything done - and how it can be applied to so many areas of your life including changing your drinking habits. I explain what you need to do in order to stop your impulses from running your day and manage them as they arise and how this will help you achieve your goals and build a better relationship with yourself in the process.
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On this episode, I talk about the tools that I taught myself when it came to changing my drinking. They are the tools that gave me the ability to manage my mind, respond to my urges in a different way, and learn to handle my desire instead of immediately acting on it. These are the same tools I use in many different aspects of my life that allowed me to write a book, launch a podcast, and build a successful coaching business.
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On this episode of Take a Break, we take a deep dive into the topic of emotional health and take a look at why it matters. I show you what good emotional health is all about (and this may actually surprise you) and what gets in the way of achieving it. Lastly, we explore how and why you should invest in your mental health and what that looks like.
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On this episode, we take a look at how you regularly fall victim to your Rolodex of excuses and fail to make meaningful progress in changing your drinking habits. Join us as I explain how to identify those permission-giving thoughts, call them out for what they are, and teach your brain that you’re the one that has the ultimate authority over the decisions you make.
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On this episode, we take a look at how pouring a drink can become a marker for the end of one segment (generally work) and help you transition into a different, more relaxed part of your day. Tune in as I explain why we as human beings need markers and transitions in our everyday life and how using alcohol as a marker can get in the way when you want to change your habit of drinking.
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